The Gap is the distance between four things: what I experience, what you experience, what I think you experience, and what you think I experience. Collected independently, so neither account is negotiated into the other before it is recorded.
A gap is not a fault. A wide gap on something neither of you cares much about is noise. A narrow gap on something one of you considers non-negotiable can be the whole story. That is why WORTH weights every difference by how much each person said it matters.
Perception gap
The distance between what you believe your partner feels and what they report feeling. The most common and the least discussed.
Expectation gap
Two different unspoken agreements about what this relationship is supposed to provide.
Experience gap
The same week, lived twice. One person describes calm; the other describes absence.
Reciprocity gap
Asymmetry in perceived effort, attention and repair — who notices, who initiates, who resolves.
Priority gap
Agreement on the facts, disagreement on which of them matters most.
Hidden alignment
Agreement neither person knew existed. The one measurement that reliably relieves people.
Each dimension is plotted as a distance between two independent reports — never as a single score for the couple, because a couple does not have one experience.
Illustration only — this plot uses example values, not anyone's data.